Things thrown ... Slaps given ... Nasty words hurled ... Once sat on the kitchen window, with one leg on the outside ... Ready to leave all behind ... Right in front of my eyes ... Today ...
Once a strong, stubborn woman ... Now a depressed woman who can't control her thoughts, feelings and behaviour anymore ... Yes ... That's her, my mum ... Though she's still as stubborn as before ...
It was never easy to be a caregiver for someone suffering from long-term illness ... Especially an illness like Alzheimer's Disease which takes away one's memory bit by bit, very slowly ...
Everyday having to worry about his safety when out of sight, monitor his diet, prepare his medication, get scolded for helping him, bathe him, etc ... That's what she has been doing to dad for the last 3 years ...
Very often, frustration was taken out on dad by words or hitting when he doesn't co-operate with her ... Have mentioned to her that whenever she feels that she can't control her emotions anymore, just walk away ... Take a deep breath, then come back to the problem ... NO TIME is the answer ... Always claimed to be tied up with "housework" whereby what's left for her to do are basic cleaning of the house, washing of hers and dad's clothing and cooking (optional) ...
Tried so hard explaining to her the importance of taking care of her health too ... Deaf ear turned ... Tried talking to her nicely ... Not a word register in her mind ... Whatever others say is never right ... If scream at her, will threaten to commit suicide ... Wanna get a maid for her ... Rejected ... Says maid won't do job to her standards ... Will have conflict ...
Mum ... Please tell us what we should do so that you can feel happy again ... We cannot perform miracle on dad's condition for sure ... Want more money? ... I'm jobless now ... I still try my best to give you all I have ... We have all tried to adjust our schedule around you ... We have not left much housework for you anymore ... We would love to chat with you if only you dun become so defensive at every single conversation ...
Mum ... We will always be there for you ... You are never alone ... We all took on different responsibilities to ensure the family still function as normal ... Let's all work hand in hand to achieve true happiness, challenging all obstacles and emerge as winners ... Mum, we all love you ...
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