It Takes Two Hands To Clap

Was recently updated by a long-time friend that couple of our common friends' marriages have ended up in divorces ... Felt really sad things has to turn out this way ... Couple of them even have kids already ... Is there no more guarantee to marriages anymore? ...

I'm starting to get more and more paranoid about marriage ... My hope is to only marry once ... No divorce ... No matter what, it takes two hands to clap and it takes two heads to solve problems more effectively ...

My philosophy ... In a relationship, there must have 3 elements: communication, understanding & trust ... Without communication, we cannot understand each other ... Without understanding, we cannot bring ourselves to trust each other ... Without trust, we ceased communicating to each other ... And it's a vicious cycle all over again ...

So what's the secret to a fulfilling and long-lasting relationship? ... Any tips? ... I've had 4 relationships before ... 3 of them lasted 3 years each and the last one ended real badly in 2 years ... I have always been the one to initiate the breakup ... Why? ... I dunno ... Maybe I was afraid ... Afraid that I'll be hurt big time if ever the relationship lasted long enough, having bared my heart and soul to the one I have learnt to love deeply ...

Maybe someone will soothe my fears soon ... Maybe not ... The clock's ticking ... But I don't care ... I'm not in a hurry ... I'd love to be pampered and to pamper agian ... But it still seems so scary ... That one day it'll all be over and everything's back to square one ... Think the best is to enjoy the last moments of my singledom before the someone opens my heart again ...